Do you want to be considered an interesting interlocutor and always leave a pleasant impression on others? The ability to conduct conversations will help you in your relationship, career, friendship and life in general. How do you become a good conversationalist in any situation and place? The modern world is a world of communication and communication. Through communication, relationships, friendships, careers, money and other values come to us. Do you know how to communicate with people or do you experience difficulties, are shy and do not know what to talk about? How do you start a conversation with strangers, establish contacts with others and have a conversation with people? How to be an interesting interlocutor in social networks: VKontakte, Facebook or Odnoklassniki? How to talk on the phone or correspondence through messengers? Here are 111 tips from smart books on communication, which will help to conduct conversations and conversations.
The ability to communicate with people will allow to be heard as an interesting interlocutor and person. And it gives many advantages for life. Community people are more likely to succeed in all areas, while the silent remain on the sidelines of life.
1. When talking, think about whether the topic is interesting to the interlocutor. Talk only about what is of interest or concern to the person you are talking to.
2. Smile. Look friendly, positive, and open so you can get in touch faster.
3. The golden rule of morality is, “Treat other people the way you want them to be treated.” But you’d better do it according to the platinum rule, “Treat other people the way you want them to be treated.”
4. Take advantage of the active listening: listen carefully, nod, give in, agree, help with the right phrases and thoughts.
5. Name your interlocutor more often, because the sound of the name is very pleasant for any person. So always remember or write down the names of new acquaintances.
6. Take care of your appearance, image and image. Everyone is happy to talk to a tidy and stylish person smelling delicious perfume.
7. Don’t be a nerd, a whiner, a complainer or a boring person. Everybody runs away from people like fire.
8. Pay compliments, notice the positive features and strengths of the person you’re talking to. It will cause a backlash of sympathy.
9. In a conversation, try to understand the character and mood of the interlocutor at the moment.
10. Try to show yourself on the best and presentable side so that you will like it faster.
11. Find common interests with your interlocutor to find common ground: hobbies, passions or dreams.
12. Work on diction, clarity and beauty of speech.
13. Treat all people with respect. It makes a great impression.
14. Don’t make a formal conversation about the weather or anything empty. The interlocutor immediately stops listening and gets suspended. He’s getting bored.
15. Try not to be annoying when talking and not to hang extra noodles on the ears of the interlocutor.
16. Explain the point in simple and accessible language, so that those around you don’t think you’re being clever.
17. Let your companion speak more than you.
18. Be an optimist, not a pessimist in your conversation. It causes positive emotions.
19. Communication should not be a monologue. Limit your story and suggestions so the person you’re talking to can speak too.
20. Feel free to ask questions to the person you are talking to so that you can start a conversation and make contact.
- Be prepared for questions at any level and try to answer them despite the difficulties.
- Do not argue aggressively and categorically. Even disagreements can be resolved peacefully and calmly. A dispute is a careful search for compromises.
- use the interlocutor’s answers to continue the conversation on the topic of interest.
- Avoid gossiping and talking badly about other people. Otherwise they’ll think you’re spreading gossip behind your backs.
- Never interrupt the interlocutor or insert your “5 kopecks” to tell your case or story.
- Focus on the interlocutor when you’re talking to him, not distracted by other things.
- Make the person you are talking to understand by using familiar objects, phenomena and comparisons.
- Do not ridicule people, their thoughts and desires. This is very disrespectful. Laugh with them when they’re having fun themselves.
- Work on your voice. A low, velvety and chesty voice is more pleasant to hear than a squeaky or uneven one.
- The important skill of the interlocutor is not only to say what is necessary, but also to keep silent about what is not necessary.
- Be tactful to your interlocutor and respect his feelings.
- Observe the non-verbal signals of the person you’re talking to. Is the person looking at the watch, pulling out the phone or trying to sneak out? It’s time to stop talking.
- Avoid special terms when talking to people outside your profession.
- Lead an active life to be an interesting conversationalist who has something to say. Try to be a man of peace, global and ambitious, with cosmopolitan views. Such people are attractive.
- Don’t be too open, especially to someone you don’t know.
- Try to keep abreast of the latest developments in the world to support the conversation.
- You don’t have to be right in an argument or confrontation.
- Shyness, uncertainty and an inferiority complex interfere with conversation.
- Be attentive to what the interlocutor says and remember. It’s silly to ask again later.
- Expand your horizons to be shoddy to talk on any topic.
- Don’t ask too many questions like it’s an interrogation or an interview.
- Don’t try to touch on too many topics for conversation by jumping from one to the other.
- Repeat your interlocutor’s body language to show your similarities.
- Keep a dozen interesting stories in stock that are appropriate for a particular situation.
- The best way to win an argument is to avoid it.
- Don’t try to remake people and accept them for who they are.
- Read a couple of books on oratory and human communication. Make sure you read Dale Carnegie’s book “How to Make Friends and Affect People.”
- Start talking about new things in the world, achievements and interesting events, but don’t get involved in paraphrasing frank gossip.
- Try to look at things from the perspective of your interlocutor.
- Answering questions is not one-sided. Otherwise, you’ll feel like you’re not interested in the conversation, and you want to finish it faster.